Couples Therapy

A natural progression of a relationship is to fall out of love.

“….It is at this point a couple either decides to dissolve

the ties of the relationship

OR

ignite the work of real love”

M. Scott Peck, M.D., The Road Less Travelled

You are on this page because you are experiencing some challenges in your relationship, a crossroads. You have now fallen out of love with each other and are possibly having a hard time seeing eye to eye on anything. You are experiencing grief of what was, and a multitude of feelings (fear, anxiety, sadness, failure, grief,…) of what the future may hold…”is this the end?”

Did you know that feelings of grief, anxiety, fear, and sadness can be expressed as anger?

What if you were able to begin to have conversations about these feelings? What if you learned a new way to understand and communicate to each other? How would this change your relationship?

You are here because you still have hope and the desire to work things out.

When two people fall in love, they fall into each other and meld. It is actually a “temporary and partial collapse of their ego boundaries,..” (M. Scott Peck, M.D.)

Falling in love usually brings forth feelings of:

  • Sexual desire

  • Always wanting to be with them

  • One sees the other as perfect

  • There is a feeling of wholeness, completeness

  • Life is wonderful

Now, in your relationship, you are being called to develop mature love, a love that allows you both to individuate, become interdependent and nurture yourselves into deeper wholeness.

MY APPROACH:

My approach to couples’ therapy is broad, as each couple’s journey is unique. My resources are drawn from 20+ years of being a psychotherapist. I use personal narratives and psychoeducation to help each couple understand the unconscious dynamics of their relationship. I then draw on the work of Harville Hendrix, Dr. Sue Johnson, John and Julie Gottman, Scott M. Peck and Emotionally Focused Therapy approaches to aid each couple to develop a conscious, loving relationship.

Love calls us to grow,

And, with Love,

All is possible.

Ann Schnurr is an approved provider with Green Shield, Blue Cross, and Sun Life insurance plans.